Tuesday, March 03, 2009

Nothing new...

I am sorry that I have not posted in so long, but there is nothing new to report. I go down every other day and sit with Mike for a few hours, but all he does is sleep. We are watching him slowly starve to death. That is what it seems like to me. He can not eat any more, and only can have clear liquids. They are keeping him heavily medicated to keep the pain at bay. I am an emotional wreck, as is Phyllis, so we just can not concentrate on blogging. I do wonder why this is taking so long. We know he will die, he knows he is dying, But his cancer just keeps on living...It just is not fair!

18 comments:

Joy Des Jardins said...

No sweetie...it isn't fair. This is the hardest part of the whole ordeal. This is the part you pray goes quickly. This is the part that takes its toll on every family member to the fullest. This is the part I hate the most and will be saying a prayer over for all of you....God Bless. ~Joy

Sally said...

Not fair at all, yet there must be a reason. I know that doesn't help at all. I think about y'all all the time!!

Carla said...

We understand, Mary Lou. Don't post if you don't feel up to it. We'll still be here for you when you come back.

I'm sorry. It's tough and it is not fair.

Brenda said...

Watching and waiting while your loved one lingers and suffers is one of the hardest things you'll ever do in life Miz Mary lou. God Bless you and Phyllis and your family.

Bobbie said...

Thinking of you and Phyllis and your family, and keeping you in my prayers. It's such a difficult time for you all.

Tine said...

It's not fair at all! You are all in my thoughts. HUGS

Esther said...

The hospice nurse told me "they" are not suffering from want of food or drink. To continue trying to feed them could cause them to choke, taking fluid to the lungs and they die of phnuemonia. She told me "you do not want to see him go that way....starving to death (as we see it) is an easy death." However...hearing is the last sense they lose so keep talking to him and tell him how much you love him, etc;

Herman said...

Which words can comfort someone in a situation in which Mike's wife and his family is? Undoubtedly they take good care of Mike and it will be ensured that he is not in pain, but it is so sad and heavy to see all this happen as a witness.

Joan said...

I know how helpless you feel, I understand.

Anji said...

I'm sorry, you are all suffering at the moment. we're thinking of you all.

keewee said...

Dear Mary Lou, I echo all the previous comments. Please know, you, your family, and Mike's family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Donna said...

Bless your hearts...praying for you all...((((HUG))))

cassie-b said...

Our prayers are with you.

Cas
This has got to be so hard.

jazzi said...

I hate to hear that it's so hard. We're thinking of you and yours.

Dick said...

As others have said this is probably the hardest time of the process for you. And it probably isn't particularly hard on Mike. The ones who are the closest to him are the ones that will most need your love and attention when it does happen and for some time after. Loosing Annie is still very fresh in my mind and those evenings alone after all the company has headed back to their lives are the hardest for the close survivors.

Writer on Board said...

So sorry. Not fair.

VTcrone said...

I am a former hospice nurse who learned much of what I know about the dying process from workshops that I was able to take with Elizabeth Kubler Ross. My patients, friends and family also taught me many wonderful lessons.
As Esther said, "hearing is the last sense to go," so talk to Mike all you can and, if no one has done so, give him permission to let go. Let him know how much you will miss him but that you will take care of each other.
You will all be in my prayers.
Namaste-

Rain said...

It's not fair. Life isn't fair. Death can be particularly hard but at least he is not suffering and that is a blessing. Maybe he's doing some spiritual work in his mind right now that is important for his time of crossing over from life to death.